I intended to create a blog post but after having a moment of inspiration flood over me I didn’t think the written word would do it justice. So with webcam in hand and sleepy eyes I recorded a special video for you. I hope that it will encourage you when the inner dragons try to tell you that:
You’re not ready…
Don’t bother starting…
You’re not good enough.
After taking a moment to reflect on 2013 and revisit my Core Desired Feelings that I created from Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map, I’m proud of my growth this year. But where there is growth there will be self doubt. Today’s video shares the 4 words that I tell myself to keep going, when my mind and even other people tell me to stop.
Check out of the video below:
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“Good things happen to those who hustle”
“Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone”
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
We’ve all probably heard the phrases above at some point or another.
But how does it really feel like to play at the edge of your comfort zone? For all the hustlers out there seeking those ‘good things’, how do you do it everyday and more importantly why do you do it?
Behind the catch phrases and motivational mantras, these are the questions that we often don’t talk enough about and one of the reasons why I created the event The Secrets of a Side Hustler.
In my journey to bring this event to life my goals were clear. I didn’t want to share a one sized fits all blueprint on how to balance the life of being an employee and an employer or bash having a daytime job.
What I really sought to accomplish was to inspire the people who are out on their grind everyday, funding their dreams and trying to stay healthy through their hustle to know that could do it on their own terms and more importantly that they weren’t alone.
The pursuit of any goal, especially something as personal and vulnerable as launching a business around your passion can bring up a lot of ‘stuff’. And by stuff I mean it will mess with your head big time.
If my event could help re-assure at least one person that their dreams and goals matter then I achieved my purpose.
I live in a city full of passionate people who give their all in a day job but also juggle as my friend Gwen Elliot cheekily says ‘a bunch of other stuff’ to fund the dream on the side.
Why do they do it? The reasons vary but we’re united by this fact
It’s not easy…but it’s worth it.
How did this event come to fruition? The idea was actually born out of a moment anxiety, at my ‘daytime hustle’ ironically. It was one of those days when everything that could go wrong did and for a few moments I struggle to catch my breath.
I stepped away from my desk to allow the feelings of overwhelm to subside and took a few moments to breathe and reflect on my temporary moment of panic. It was then that I realized that hidden within that moment of stress was a blessing. Rather than chalk the episode up to having a bad day and pretend it didn’t happen, I saw an opportunity to share what I know many folks feel sometimes.
What was that? The fact that sometimes juggling multiple things that you love – especially one that you’re super passionate about and want to see thrive is not always so fun. Some days you’ll feel overwhelmed. Despite what you here, there really is no such thing as balance and above all you need to let desire, love and your why be stronger than your fear.
So I dusted my shoulders off and I turned that moment of panic into purpose. A month later The Secrets of a Side Hustler Event was born.
I’m proud to say that the event had an amazing turnout featuring an all-star panel of talented side hustlers who also happen to be my amazing friends – Pauleanna Reid, Gwen Elliot, Bee Quammie and Karlyn Percil. There were many lessons and vulnerable moments that were shared including our deepest desires on what keeps us motivated, our self care routines and the importance of not giving up. Above all my biggest goal was realized of knowing that attendees left feeling inspired that they have everything within them to keep pursuing their passions and make sure they stay healthy while doing it.
There were a ton of awesome gems of wisdom shared so here are 6 Secrets to help seasoned or aspiring hustlers master being both an employee and employer
1. Your health is your wealth
I had to start with this tip first because I truly believe it is the most important.
You can’t out-hustle poor lifestyle choices. (Tweet this!)
We had some opposing views on the panel about the importance of sleep and how much you should get. My take is this: Whether you get 8 hours of sleep or 4, at a minimum you need to make listening to your body a priority and self-care shouldn’t be optional. Balancing a full workload is not a free pass to say that you’re too busy to take care of yourself. To give your best to others you have to give the best to yourself.
Take Action: Put yourself on your to-do list by prioritizing self-care into your everyday activities. Schedule workouts, try pre-planning your meals or make an effort to choose healthier options if you’re eating out. I prioritize quiet time everyday with meditation. My favourite app is calm.com which provides guided meditation in as little as 5 minutes. Do what you can to prioritize choosing ease vs angst.
2. When you feel the urge to give up (and you will), revisit your why
One of the great moments during the event was when each panelist shared how they got started and what they do during the moments when they are ready to throw in the towel. Remember when I said earlier that pursuing a goal that you’re passionate about will mess with your head? Well when the limiting beliefs and resistance come out to play you have two choices. You can give in to your beliefs by giving up or numbing yourself OR you could make the decision to work through the doubts and keep going. The common dominator in deciding to keep going is knowing why you want to in the first place.
Take Action: Revisit your why for your ‘hustle’. What motivates you to do what you do? Danielle LaPorte has an amazing approach to goal setting called the Desire Map that advocates looking at your core desired feelings. Think about what you desire to feel in your life and ask yourself if your goals align.
3. Ask for Help
Ever heard the saying ‘You can do anything, but not everything’?
Success is not a solo journey so stop trying to do everything yourself! We don’t like to admit it, but we create unnecessary stress when we try to be a superhero and ‘do it all’. Some of the great tips from the panelists touched upon the importance of finding mentors, creating mastermind groups or simply asking for what you need. It’s ok to not have all of the answers because trust me you won’t.
Take Action: Think about something that you’re struggling with or want to take off of your plate. Who in your network can you ask to help you or mentor you to take you to the next level?
4. Planning is your Friend
When it came to questions about where do you find the time to see friends, go to the gym or relationships, planning and scheduling was the unanimous response to making this work. Like it not, sometimes everything can’t be spontaneous and you’ll bring a little more ease into your day if you have a clear plan of what you want and need to accomplish. If you’re juggling multiple hats, creating a system to manage your priorities is a must and will quickly become your secret weapon to success.
Take Action: Don’t just use scheduling for work tasks, go the extra mile of scheduling in your self-care activities. When you write it down, you’ll make it happen.
5. Do your best on and off the clock
Even if you have a few projects to fund your dreams outside of your 9-5, don’t think this is an opportunity for you to slack. You owe it to yourself and your employer to give 100% everyday whether you have outside interests or not. So make sure you do your best all the time and not just when you’re off the clock.
Take Action: Be present at your day time hustle. It’s not the time to work on your other projects on their time. This is when scheduling and prioritization becomes important. Set up your day so that when you’re at your job, you can be fully present and when you’re there, over deliver! Even if you’re not working at your dream job, give gratitude to the role that you have now and remember that it is taking you to the next step of where you truly want to be.
My final bonus tip would be to find a rockstar support system. I’ve been blessed to have some incredible friends who I can turn to for advice, support, celebration and even to be panel guests! ; )
My hope is that you have or can find a tribe that can be there for you.
I’m already working on the next Secrets of a Side Hustler Event that will take place in Spring of 2014. If you’re looking for your passion driven tribe, this is definitely the place to find it.
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Looking back to when I first started my blog in 2012, it’s amazing to see how far I’ve come but by no means has the journey been perfect.
Blogging as with any goal, is not immune to the same challenges that we often face when we dive head first in to something that we are excited about.
So when Hilary from Dean Street Society asked me to be a part of the Happy Hour Blog Tour to share details about my own blogging journey I was honoured and excited to join the conversation. Hillary has written a brand new book called the The 4-Part Entrepreneur Cocktail which is the ultimate toolkit for individuals who desire to be bloggers and entrepreneurs. It gives the inside scoop on everything you ever wanted to know if you’re just starting out and is definitely something I would have loved to have before I hit the Publish button on my first post!
To celebrate the launch, every day in November you can find stories from other entrepreneurs who are throwing back the curtain to give you a backstage pass at their blog or business.
The section of the book that really resonated with me was ‘Saying No to Overwhelm’. Whether you have a blog or not, when you have a goal or if you’re working on something that you’re passionate about, overwhelm can creep up on you if you’re not self-aware.
I’ll wholeheartedly admit that I’ve had my fair share of times when I’ve felt overwhelmed. Who hasn’t nowadays? But I’ve become much better at being self-aware to notice the triggers and also finding ways to stop that feeling in it’s tracks. Here a few things that I’ve learned on how to kick overwhelm to curb and prevent feeling burned out on the goals that you are passionate about.
1. Know your Why
It’s one thing to have a goal but have you stopped to ask yourself why you’re doing it in the first place? Along the way, things will get bumpy. There will be times when you doubt yourself, question what you’re doing and wonder if you can pull it off. Now imagine if you weren’t clear about your vision or purpose AND you were trying to wade through a pool of doubts?
Earlier this year I did an interview with Dyana Valentine and she said something that sums this up perfectly: If we don’t know our why, then what we do is basically irrelevant. Before embarking on your journey, carve out some time to know what you’re trying to achieve. It makes it much easier to navigate through the bumpy patches when you know the greater purpose that you are trying to fulfil.
2. Get off the Comparison Train
I know this is easier said than done, but one of the most important ways to prevent overwhelm is avoiding compare and despair syndrome. Shortly after I first started my blog, I got into the icky habit of looking at way too many different websites.
“Oh..wow this design is so nice..should I do that?”
“OMG 10K subscribers..I’m light years from that!”
“40 comments on one post! How did they do that?”
What starts off innocently can bring you down a rat hole of self comparison and doubt. The best antidote to Comparison goes back to knowing why.
Your purpose, your views and actions are unique and deserve to be heard. There can never be another person like you so give yourself a break let your inner critic know that despite what they say, you’re doing to keep pressing along anyway.
If all else fails, check out this amazing video from Dr. Brene Brown on how to deal with your inner critic
3. Plan ahead & Get Comfortable with asking for help
One of the best ways to stay one step ahead from burnout is to create a plan and master the art of asking. Even though I’m a project manager I still need to remind myself when it comes to my blog and my business that I don’t need to do everything.
Even if you think you can do it all, you don’t have to. Create a plan and make a goal to focus on what you’re good at and work your way up to outsourcing the rest.
It’s been an honour to be a part of this series. If you live in the Toronto area, on November 30 I will be hosting a special event with my friend Bee Quammie on how to get started and expand your reach as a blogger. You can learn more and sign up here!
For my awesome readers outside of the city, if you have any questions or would like more information on building your own blogs or the behind the scenes of being an entrepreneur please reach out to schedule a virtual coffee session. I am more than happy to help.
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When I published my first post in 2012, accolades and metrics were the furthest thing from my mind. But I knew even then that I was embarking on something special.
I wanted to take my thoughts out of my journal and make a difference with my words. I sought to inspire people to recognize that ‘looking healthy’ and feeling healthy are not one in the same and take a stand for the power of training your ‘mental fitness’.
Truth be told, I had no idea who would even read my blog and a few months in I secretly hoped that eventually I could carve out my own unique voice in the blogsphere.
Fast Forward to November 2013 and I think it’s safe to say that I’ve found my groove and then some. Blogging has opened some amazing doors and more importantly fulfils one of my goals to inspire others to action with my words. So that’s why it’s a humbling honour to have my blog chosen as a runner up in Best Health Magazine’s 2013 Best Blog Awards!
This award was selected by Best Health Magazine readers and also my readers who nominated me and placed their votes over the summer. Every post that I sit down to create, twitter chat that I host and program that I create is done for you – my readers. The journey has been great so far and I’m further inspired to step my game up even further in 2014 and beyond.
Thank you to all readers new and old for your support, feedback and engagement on this blog and to the Best Health Magazine team for this recognition!
My blog is in amazing company for this award and you can see the feature at the Best Health Magazine Website here: http://www.besthealthmag.ca/special-features/bh-blog-award or pick up their December 2013 Issue!
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